Thanks for sharing your story and specifically the hope you have for your life with your girlfriend now. I'm going through a particularly hard breakup (with similar parallels to your marriage) and it just gives me some hope.As everyone else said, he asked us not to be naysayers about marriage. Marriage is becoming one person. There are risks in everything on this planet. Trusting another person on the level of marriage is one of the boldest and hardest things to do in life. The rewards are great.
I married someone I loved when I was 31. I had known her for a year. I thought she was my best friend, lover, companion, support system and everything I thought i could want in a woman. There was one thing I over looked. I think it was my immaturity, my lack of self respect or worth, my wanting to be married and having children.... She asked me to marry her. I said yes and 3 weeks later we were married. What I didn't realize was that she wanted to marry me because I was a sweet guy and I treated her right. The problem is that, it was the only reason. SHe didn't love me, care for me, support me like I needed. She hit me, verbally abused me and ended up cheating on me. I lost my job and 3 months later the marriage ended. I was devastated, homeless (sorta, moved in with my best friend, his wife and two kids), and penniless.
Here I am, 4 or so years later. ready to propose to the most wonderful girl I have ever met. Why?! I get that questions a lot. People who I know that have gone through divorce and would never be married again.
For me, I can't wait to share my life with someone (obvi my girlfriend). Waking up together, making decisions together, and raising children together. There is nothing that makes me happier (with the exception of fantasy hockey of course).
I guess my point is: We all have stories, we all have our pain, our joy and our lives to live. Live your life with who you want and don't ever let anyone tell you differently. The perceptions of modern day society have no reflection on any one relationship. Follow your heart and you will be happy.